How to Use Your Results

Your communication snapshot shows you six dimensions of how you tend to communicate in relationships, especially under stress. Each dimension has a percentage showing how strongly that pattern applies to you.

Your top two needs are the communication patterns that matter most to you. These are the things that, when met, help you feel understood and connected. When these needs are not met, you may feel frustrated, hurt, or shut down.

Your friction point is the dimension where misunderstanding is most likely to occur. This is often where conflicts start, not because either partner is wrong, but because you are speaking different emotional languages.

Focus on your top two needs first. Understanding these helps you communicate what you need more clearly, and helps your partner know how to support you.

Timing matters. Choose a calm moment, not during or right after a conflict. A good time might be during a relaxed evening, a walk, or over coffee.

Start with an invitation, not a demand. Try something like: "I took this quiz about how I communicate in relationships. I thought it was interesting and wondered if you would take a look at my results."

Frame it as self-discovery, not criticism. Say: "This helped me understand why I react certain ways" rather than "This explains what you do wrong."

Invite them to take it too. Couples often find it helpful when both partners take the quiz. It shifts the conversation from "me vs. you" to "us understanding each other."

This is a structured conversation you can have once a week to stay connected. It takes about 10 minutes.

1. Set a timer for 5 minutes. One partner shares how they have been feeling this week. The other listens without interrupting or problem-solving.
2. Switch. Set another 5 minutes for the other partner to share while the first listens.
3. End with appreciation. Each person says one thing they appreciated about the other this week. It does not need to be big.

The goal is not to solve problems. It is to stay emotionally connected and give each person space to be heard.

It is normal for partners to feel defensive when presented with new information about communication patterns. They might feel criticized or blamed.

Do not push. If they seem resistant, say: "No pressure. I just wanted to share something that helped me understand myself better. We can talk about it whenever you are ready, or not at all."

Use "I" statements. Focus on your own experience: "I realized I need more reassurance when I am stressed" rather than "You never reassure me."

Give it time. Sometimes partners need to process on their own before they are ready to engage. That is okay.

Your results include a specific script based on your top communication need. This is a phrase you can use in real conversations.

Practice it when you are calm. Say it out loud a few times so it feels natural. You might even tell your partner: "I am trying something new. When I say this, it means I need..."

Use it early. The script works best at the start of tension, not after a full argument. As soon as you notice frustration building, try the phrase.

Be patient. New communication patterns take time. If it feels awkward at first, that is normal. Keep trying.